Hints and Tips for Patients, Partners, Family & Friends

It is quite common for people to announce to those close to them when they start to try for children, because there is an assumption that this will occur reasonably quickly. It could be that parents are unwell and it would be wonderful for grandchildren to arrive to bring cheer to the sick parent or it might be that friends also start to try and there is excitement about the expectation that they will travel this path together.

When this does not happen, it can be awkward for everyone. It may be well meaning but may not always be helpful to keep asking what’s happening. Pregnancy announcements and the birth of babies may be very difficult times. It is helpful to allow for non-attendance at big family functions which are child- oriented, such as Christmas or first birthday parties. Giving a choice about attending these may be the respectful thing to do.

Often it is the woman who is asked how she is. Remember that men worry about this too and feel sad when things are not working out. Sport is often a strategy for men so it may be helpful to offer a game of squash, golf or watching a football match as a way to express concern.

For more information download Tips for Men