Getting through Christmas

Christmas can be difficult to navigate for those trying to get pregnant.  Being around friends and family with children and having to answer questions from those less perceptive, can cause a whole range of feelings. Repromed counsellor Lani Eagle has some tips for dealing with the festive season.


Be kind to yourself

If you’re feeling sad, angry, or jealous, accept that these are normal feelings or responses to your situation. Recognise the emotions as they arise, take some breaths for yourself, and allow the feelings to pass.


Manage your time

If you are to cope well with extra demands at Christmas, ensure you take time out to relax. This also helps you retain a sense of control amid uncertainty. Consider missing gatherings that may prove draining, for instance where there are babies, or being with those people who may ask when you are having a baby. Tell close friends or family if you are feeling sad or in need of a hug and a sympathetic ear.


Make plans

Your main goal may be to get pregnant, but don’t forget to plan some fun to look forward to as well. Focus on the things you enjoy in life, and explore new ones.


Help others

Take the pressure off and focus on supporting someone else. You’ll make a difference in their lives, and you’ll be keeping busy and feel empowered. Embrace the Christmas spirit – visit an elderly neighbour or relative or volunteer for a charity.


Make the most of being childfree

You never know when you might have a baby and although it’s what you want most, a baby does take up a lot of time. So head to the beach with a book, binge-watch TV, hang out with friends who don’t have kids. Or spend time with friends who are also struggling to conceive – your shared experience will help you feel normal and understood.


Get in touch

We are with you through this testing time in your life, and all the Repromed team are here to support you. All IVF/IUI treatments include at least one free session with an experienced fertility counsellor. Kia kaha.

Megan Black

Nurse Manager


Megan leads the nursing team through the continually changing face of IVF. She works in a multidisciplinary team, providing the essential organization between the doctors and laboratory and ensuring communication between all departments.

Megan started her IVF nursing career in the United Kingdom, working in two large London clinic’s before returning to New Zealand. She is also the Secretary of Fertility Nurses of Australasia.

I love working with people and see nursing as a vocation, not a job. I usually spend my downtime absorbed in a good book and planning my next travel adventure.